Welcome to Divorce Doula – Your Family Law Coaching Experience
Divorce Doula is a coaching service that offers a 12-step program designed around the legal process of divorce and built on a passion to provide emotional and educational support on the road to healing (click this link to view a summary of the 12 steps). While we have developed this 12-step program, we strive to always meet people where they are. Your coaching experience is customized by you! We additionally offer coaching services in other areas of family law with the mission of filling in the gaps between your well-being and the technicalities of the law.
Divorce Doula is a really unique and safe place where you can say things that you would not otherwise feel comfortable saying, not to your lawyer or other involved professionals, not to your family members or your friends. Your Divorce Doula is a completely objective and non-judgemental figure in a 100% confidential space meant for unpacking it all. You’re going to be meeting with a lot of different professionals, in addition to your attorney, because there are likely a lot of different matters involved in your situation. Think of those professionals as your team, and think of us as another supportive member to bolster your team even more (click this link to view coach profiles). With your coach, you can debrief meetings that you have already had with other professionals or we can help you prep by teasing through what you do and don’t want to bring to your meetings with them. We can separate the facts from your feelings, to ensure you have more clean and more focused meetings and that you understand the concepts, options, and opportunities for decisions that are going to feel like they’re being thrown at you.
Some other unique things we can do is get you ready to deal with the more uncomfortable stuff, like telling your family and your friends about your family law matter, and dealing with other people’s opinions in a way that ensures you stay true to your feelings, your decisions, your family, and ultimately…yourself. With that, we can also take a step back from your family law matter and make sure you’re still breathing. If you’re not, we’ll get you breathing again and make sure you have what you need to keep breathing. We can also do some solution-focused work to identify where there is room for behavior change in the realms of your life that are causing you trouble; where you feel like you can be a better version of yourself!
It is important to disclose that your Divorce Doula is not a trained mental health professional. This means we do not provide therapy services. Our coaches are trained as coaches, who have a different value, mission, and approach, and play a different role in your life than would your therapist. So you can be seeking therapy at the same time that you are seeing your coach. In fact, it would be the perfect recipe for your well-being. The same way that you might debrief with us a meeting with your attorney or accountant, you can debrief with us a meeting with your therapist. We will never undermine your therapist or the other professionals that you are seeing! We are just here to provide flexible and accessible support on the sidelines as you go through these different processes. Click this link to read more about the difference between coaching and counseling, and our Divorce Doula mission.
